Dating Tips.

To all those who are lost in love, have a certain fellow who simply catches their eye, Austen wrote some advisable tips that may be of good use.

Of course this was from the XVIII century, a period where love was more of a business; interest rather than a passionate feeling that drive two people together. Nevertheless, who says that these tips that Charlotte says cannot come in handy.

"If a woman conceals her affection with the same skill from the object of it, she may loose the opportunity of fixing him; and it will then be but poor consolation to believe the world equally in the dar" (Pg 15).

It is always better to show what you feel so the young man knows that you are really interested. This empowers you to able to control him later. He will know that you are "madly in love", giving him certain credibility to take a step towards a relationship, pleasing you. "In nine cases out of ten, a woman had better show more affection than she feels" (Pg 15), it is the only way by which a man can set ground on the situation. If they never know what is going on, they won't be able to predict your behavior. If your affection towards him reveals your true feelings, he will feel loved, thus will end up wanting something more.  A man, "may never do more than like her, if you do not help him on."(Pg 15), they need your help to understand what is best for them, and what is best for you.

It is not true that men control a relationship and as said in spanish, "el hombre propone, la mujer dispone" usually women are the ones that decide what they want out of men, having total control over them.

So don't fall into despair, it is a matter of skills and effort to end up with the man of your dreams.

Yours Truly,

Doctor Love.